Thursday, November 27, 2008
"You write down interesting stuff that happens to you" I said.
"So it's like a blog.... on paper"
Bella: When I read the above quote recently in a magazine, I had to laugh. I thought it was perfectly representative of the way of life and attitude of the youth of today. Not that it's a bad thing. It's just that I can't help but feel so much has changed even in the short 15 or so years since the time I was considered a youth.
The technological advances that have occurred within the last 10 years are amazing to me but to children growing up through these times....it's just the way of life for them.
Children of today are exposed to so much more, have so many things to do and experience and it seems more things are accepted now as well. I can't help but worry sometimes and wonder if amongst all these great new advances we are forgetting to teach or instill some basic values in the youth of today??? Discipline, respect, compassion, sympathy and empathy just to name a few.
The other day I read an article in my local paper about a car accident which consisted of two vehicles. The vehicle responsible for the accident was a high performance vehicle with 5 teenagers in the car, with the driver being recently disqualified for reckless driving. The occupants in the other car were an 87 year old man and his wife. In the impact of the crash, the 87 year old man was thrown from his vehicle and lay dying on the road. Not one teenager came to his aid. They stood around and watched while other neighbours and motorists turned the car upright and helped the passengers. Shortly later, someone dropped of McDonalds to the five teenagers who then sat around and ate it! The man later died in hospital.
I was absolutely mortified while reading this story and couldn't help but think what has happened to the youth of today?? And I'm trying not to generalise here but you tend to see and hear things in our society more and more like this??
Is it just me or is anyone else worried about this generation of youth that will one day represent our country?
Frankie: It is concerning to think that the moral compass of a lot of youth today are going astray. I don't think it's acceptable to say, "they're just kids"... which happens more than often and allow these incidents to keep happening. Let them take responsibility for what they do. I was young once and I knew the difference between right and wrong.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Thank you Simplicity at Chasing Wentworth Miller for the Kreativ Blogger award.
The rules for this award are:
1. Mention the blog that gave it to you and comment on their blog to let them know you’ve posted your award.
2. Publish these rules.
3. Share 6 values that are important to you and 6 things you do not support.
4. Grant the prize to 6 people.
6 values that are important to Frankie & Bella:
2. Self respect
3. Honesty & Integrity
4. Courtesy & Compassion
6 Things We don't support:
1. Judgemental/Prejudice people
3. Animal cruelty
5. Supressing Human Rights
6. Drug & Alcohol Abuse
We'd like to also acknowledge our fellow bloggers below with this award:
Our piece of quiet
C. Beth Blog.
Wearin' My Heart on My Sleeve
Pictures, Poetry & Prose
Monday, November 24, 2008
Frankie: Recently I received a serving of this brutal truth. And now, I am going to draw on a more personal experience here and share this truth.
So I recently went on a diet that consisted of shakes, unlimited amounts of most vegetables and 1 serve of meat a day. Anyway, one of the side effects of this diet was bad breath due to the way your body adjusts to the fat burning process.
I come home one day and say hello to my boyfriend and he starts sniffing around and says something smells. So I check my shoes to see if I perhaps stepped on dog poo. Nope. So I continue talking and he's at it again..."Something really smells like dog shit." This time he checks his shoes, I check mine again, nothing, so I continue talking. Then he says to me, come closer, so I do, then he says, "say something", so I say, "something".
At this he reels back and nearly passes out. "Geez he said, it's your breath." Naturally, I am slightly offended, to say the least, at my boyfriends inference that my breath smells like....dog shit. Coincidentally, I did not continue on that diet for much longer.
So there you have it! The brutal truth.
Now tell me, not that this is a competition or anything, but can you beat that????
When have you received the brutal truth? What was it? And who said it? A loved one, a friend or just a passing stranger?
Bella: Nope none for me :) Ok, ok. Once at work I was sharing a story with my work colleagues about a recent shopping experience that went bad. Long story short and I received the worst customer service ever. Well I'm not one who will experience bad customer service and not say something...I am paying for a service??? So I told my colleagues about trying to rectify the situation and what I said...and one of my colleagues turned around and said "Gee you're a bitch!". Well I'm sure I did come across as a bitch to the shop assistant because I was trying to stand up for what I believed in but I certainly didn't expect it from a work colleague.Frankie: yeah...I still win :)
Friday, November 21, 2008
For the most part most of the enquiries are genuine and the client just needs that extra bit of support. Sometimes however you get the type of enquiry that makes you think there is no hope for mankind. These types of calls can make you jaded and you forget to empathise with the user. We all understand things differently.
Last night I experienced a bit of IT/Technical chaos myself and after the delightful customer IT support I received (NOT) I have made a very big mental note to be more understanding from now on whenever I get support calls.
My little drama involved my newly installed home security system to go off at random times throughout the night. Last night it happened twice, while I was at home without the security system even being armed. I was a little frazzled to say the least so then having to spend the next 45 minutes with a techie guy speaking to me in a condescending tone like I was a slow, deaf, special needs customer...well it nearly sent me over the edge.
I cracked it, chucked a little tanty and told him to sort it out. I'm happy to say that this morning my husband came in to save the day and has it all sorted. But I certainly now have a little more perspective of the other side of the situation and what it's like to be in the shoes of the person seeking support.
I also came across a funny article the other day, covering just this topic and some things that your Computer Techie just won't tell you. I hope it cheers your day as it did mine :)
- Turn it off and turn it back on again. Nine times out of 10 rebooting your computer and any equipment that connects to it will solve the problem.
- We're like Santa: we know if you've been bad or good. Fessing up to what really happened right before the system crashed is going to save time- and I'm going to find it out anyway.
- Sometimes we talk about you in code. If you hear "HKI error" (for human keyboard interface) or "PEBCAK" (problem exists between chair and keyboard), we're insulting you.
- If you don't understand me, I'm not doing my job. Confusing tech jargon is a sign of insecurity, not intelligence.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Frankie: Anyway, the other day while out shopping, we were on a purposeful mission and lo and behold we were encountered by both our pet irks...pet peeves...the bain of our shopping experiences...
Ladies and gentlemen...
1. Inexperienced trolley pushers &
2. Slow walkers
Now, I am sure we both have many flaws that most probably annoy other people. But today we are going to take an indulgent liberty in discussing the above two.
Inexperienced trolley pushers have the ability to ruin a perfectly grand shopping day. Not only do they ineffectively manoeuvre their trolleys, create unnecessary trolley collisions, trolley congestion by ridiculously stopping anywhere they like, but they do all this while also inhibiting unbearable pain on our ankles. As we encountered multiple trolley offenders, I could see Bella's New Year resolution of, "staying calm and becoming more patient" fly not only out the window but the universe.
And on top of all this, I then discover the growing epidemic of...'Slow Walkers'. Is it not less then 6 weeks to Christmas? Yes, yes it is? So why on earth are there ever increasing slow walkers taking up valuable shopping time and pathway???
Bella: Other than the above two pet peeves what also drives me bananas is:
1. Indecisive people
2. Pikers. People who say they will be somewhere and then at the last minute leave you high and dry
3. People who drive in the right hand lane well below the speed limit
And my biggest Pet Peeve is
4. Punctuality! People who leave you waiting!
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Bella: We thought we'd post a list of getting to know you questions just for fun! Frankie and myself will answer but please feel free to use the list to comment back to us, email friends or family or use on your own blog?
Warning: Sorry it's a long post!
1. If you could have a $10,000 shopping spree in only one store which store would it be?
Bella: I'm torn. I'd have to say Mollini's shoe store.
Frankie: Witchery, witchery, witchery.
2. What song best describes you when you first wake up in the morning?
Bella: Sleeping In by The Postal Service
Frankie: Something from the Rocky Horror Show (Haha, Bella) No, it would be, 'Feeling Good', by Nina Simone
3. What Country would you most like to visit and why?
Bella: Russia, because I'm obsessed with Paullina Simons book The Bronze Horseman
Frankie: Ooh, it would be a toss up between, Russia, due to the same above reason, or USA, New York.
4. Coke or Pepsi?
5. Desk: messy or organized?
Bella: Super organized
6. Are you always early or terminally late?
Bella: Always super early
7. If someone called you a bitch would you be offended?
Bella: No. I'd be offended quite often if that was the case :)
Frankie: Hmmm, depends. If I was being a bitch, then no, but if I wasn't, yes.
8. Favorite sport to watch?
9. Do you squeeze toothpaste from the middle or end of the tube?
Bella: This is another bad habit of mine. I squeeze firstly from the top and then just continue mashing the tube until it comes out. There's no system involved.
Frankie: The top and then get frustrated when no paste is coming out, so I then hand over to my partner to get the remaining paste from the bottom.
10. Ever kissed a random person and then walked away?
11. Favourite colour
Frankie: Ooh, beige, how ah, lovely. :) Green.
12. Would you ever have plastic surgery?
Bella: I'd like to say no but probably yes :)
Frankie: Ha, was just talking about this with the girls at work and I am going to say, Yes. Gravity is cruel.
13. Are you a beach, country or city person?
Frankie: Ahh, beach for sure, but cities do interest me.
14. Best vacation spot you've been to?
Frankie: Haven't really been too many places so I am going to have to say, Bali.
15. If you could own a non-traditional pet which would it be?
Bella: A baby seal
Frankie: A baby hippo...but it must stay as a baby for obvious reasons :)
16. Where do you spend most of your money?
17. Favorite summer drink?
Frankie: Chocolate milk
18. Share one food item that best describes the last year of your life. (example: “frozen pizza” because I did a 180 degree turn this year, or “cinnamon roll” because it had lots of twists and turns but overall was pretty sweet)?
Bella: 2 minute noodles. Because my life has been pretty easy this past year.
Frankie: A chewy beef jerky...because my year has had some jerky, tough times in it.
19. What one item in the kitchen best describes you and your personality?
Bella: A blender because I'm pretty ruthless when it comes to making decisions.
Frankie: Right, kitchen....um, the fridge, because I always have food in me :)
20. What cartoon character best describes you?
Bella: I'm not sure? Frankie...suggestions??
Frankie: Hmm, for Bella I would say, Marvin the Martian, because he doesn’t take crap from any earthling and neither do you and for me, Garfield, because I always need food and hate Mondays
21. If you could live anywhere in the world for a year, where would it be?
Bella: New York
Frankie: New York
22. If you knew could you try anything and not fail (and money was no object), what dream would you attempt?
Bella: To be a travel writer
Frankie: To write my book
23. What super-power would you most like to have, and why?
Bella: Invisibility! You could just get out of soooo many situations with this one.
Frankie: Oh, invisibility to. Just think of the possibilities.
And the interesting one...try and guess which one we're lying about!
24. “2 Truths And a Lie” – Share 3 unique things about yourself and your life, 2 of them true, 1 false, and let people guess which one isn’t true.
1. I snorted a red M&M out my nose once and then ate it again
2. I have two tattoos and 9 piercings
3. I have never smoked in my entire life
1. I have never been drunk in my life
2. I hate red M&M's
3. I drink 7 large coffees a day
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
This particular article comments that happiness is something that can be learnt, much like healthy eating habits. Then it goes on to share some 'Ways to get happy' and the top way to get happy is:
'Set aside a worry time, such as half and hour after work. If worries come up at other times, put them out of your mind until worry time'.
Gee...thanks...why didn't I think of that! Seriously, I mean that's great advice...if you could actually do that. The whole point of the article assumes that you have some reason to be unhappy or not as happy as you like. So it tells you that if you actually have something that is worrying you, not to try and tackle the problem and sort it out but instead to push it aside when it does bother you and allocate some 'Worry Time'.
I mean this whole concept actually stresses me out even more. What if I forget what I am supposed to be worrying about when Worry Time comes??? What if I don't have enough time to allocate for all my worries!! What then?? Do I then create two or more sittings?? Oh my god, I would actually worry about the Worry Time and then wouldn't that defeat the whole purpose??
This concept to me seems great in theory but in reality, who has that much control that you can actually stop your mind from obsessing over a problem that might actually be really bothering you, to worrying about it in a more appropriate and convenient time. Well I know for one that I am not THAT IN CONTROL. Oh well there goes my happiness :)
Monday, November 17, 2008
Bella: For example I know someone, who looks very similar to myself but isn’t me, that will not eat anything the colour red. But I find this extremely endearing and personally I think one of her greatest character qualities. I love that everyone is different and these little behaviours only serve to prove that point. What a boring world we would live in if we were all the same.
So below are the things that entitle to me to fly my freak flag! What are yours?
1. I love the smell of paper. Whenever I receive anything in the mail after opening it usually the first thing I do is smell the paper :) I have found that bank statements and catalogues smell best..haha. Also I love the smell of new paperback books. CRAZY...I know.
2. I am obsessed with keeping the floors clean especially if it’s carpet. I have been known to run around the house in the presence of guests (usually only family or really close friends as I want to avoid being thrown in an asylum) with a little dust buster sucking up any little crumbs that might get away.
3. I have abnormally tiny ears. As in I don't think they have grown at all since I was born. They are really small and people often comment, point and laugh at them.
1.As Bella already mentioned, and she tries to mention it to every person we know and as often as she can :) I do not like a lot of things ‘red’, particularly red M&M’s. I think my phobia developed when I was a child and I witnessed a red M&M fly out of Bella’s nose when she was laughing at something and then picked it up and popped it back in her mouth…eew! So you can only imagine the challenge I face when someone purchases a bag of M&M’s during a visit to the cinemas. I have to inspect each one in the movie light, to make sure it is not a red culprit!
2. Next…I have an obsession with keeping my hands clean. I carry around wet wipes and those little bottles of anti-bacterial hand lotions just in case I come into close contact with a germ.
3. Finally, for some reason whenever I get angry I get this red line running down my forehead. My family used to make fun of me when I was younger for this and I remember a time when my cousin was trying to imitate me by running around the house like a mad person with a bright red pencil sticky taped to her head. Not funny!! Really, I think it’s a benefit and can indicate to family members when not to approach me, “oh the red lines showing, back away from Frankie”.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
So every Sunday we thought we'd post a round up of our favourite....things! Throughout the week there are so many little moments that just highlight your day, week or even year but never get another mention.
So Sundays will now be our:
Weekly Round Up of Random Favourite Things.
- This website Yearbook Yourself is so funny! Check it out.
- A great resource to get discussion questions for your book clubs. Reading Group Guides
- I found this website Web Designer Wall at work the other day. There are so many things that could keep a designer, creative or just someone with spare time amused.
- I'm not a big gamer but I've become obsessed with Bloxorz on Miniclip- Free Games
Fishing for Stars- Bryce Courtenay
After reading Bryce Courtenay's, The Persimmon Tree I thought that this was the end of the tale and one that I often wished could continue. Then the other day I saw Fishing for Stars! The story continues throughout Australia, Japan and Indonesia and focuses on the love triangle between two passionate women and one man. Oooohh juicy.
I tried this recipe for the first time the other week and loved it!
I also tried the combination of mashed banana on a piece of toasted home made banana bread. Oh lordy lordy why have I not discovered this sooner...so simple yet fantastic!
Well, I have to say after following Bella's lead I went onto the yearbook website and spent half the night on there. You can see the results for yourself :) And yes, this would be a new addition to my weekly favourites list.
- Chocolate and custard crepes. I have been addicted to these little, light crepes full of hot chocolate sauce and custard creme since I discovered them last week. Yum. I am now endeavouring to make these at home.
- Strong tea with soy milk. I've recently switched to soy milk and really, really love the taste of it with my tea. I am now a seven cup of tea a day person. Yes, the simple things.
The Queen of the Western Isle - Rosalind Miles
A friend recommended this book the other day and I was pleasantly suprised by it. Based on the love story of Tristan & Isolde, I found the writing style refreshing to what I have recently been reading.
The Napolean Perdis Memory Foundation. Recently purchased the NP foundation and I love it's light and dewy coverage.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Bella: We managed to grab the attention of some new followers which is always good in this competitive blog world. I hope Frankie doesn't start stressing too much (content, content, it's all about the content!!!) :) Coming from an online marketing industry I understand the importance of having relevant content but I think if we just remain ourselves and true to the point of this blog that should be enough and if not...oh well.
But the topic of 3 goals you want to achieve got me thinking about the opposite....what are goals that you have set out to achieve in the past but haven't...yet. Well, well...I have plenty :) My problem is...I loose interest after awhile. I think I'm like a goldfish sometimes, in that my attention span for new interest, ideas and ventures isn't long and I flit from one thing to another. So here are a list of my things:
- Learning Latin dancing
- Beach boot camp (I nearly died)
- Pole dancing (I nearly died...fell on my head)
- Sticking to a low GI diet (I love coffee and chocolate)
- Starting a cooking club with my family
- Writing a gratitude diary
- Working towards financial freedom (well think to be fair...this one is a constant work in progress)
There are many more. Some of the above I may take back on and try to achieve and others....well "Tell her she's dreaming!".
Frankie: Well I suppose the first way to achieving something is realising it...or realising that you failed the first time...but the good thing is, you've always got the next time.
So some of the main ones for me would be:
- Reducing my credit card debt :) (I did in fact partially achieve this one, but things have been super tough and I'd have to say this is a work in progress.)
- Travel (I have yet to achieve even a small portion of this goal. I have to admit though, I haven't been actively proactive in this one and always push it aside for my other so called priorities.)
- Exercise (Another on again off again goal...I wish I was dedicated like Bella on this front)
- Save, save, save (Maybe if I stop buying those damn shoes and bags I could actually get this goal off the ground) :)
We try not to get deterred by not achieving all our goals all the time..Tomorrow is another day!
Friday, November 14, 2008
So as mentioned by Bella, we are in fact twins and together we are going to use this as our shared blog. Personally, I think this is a wonderful idea because I have tried to maintain a blog profile of another kind in the past and just didn't update frequently enough.
Consequently, I had many 'friends' as they were called on this site, drop off or 'cut' me from thier list??? I couldn't keep up with the demand or pressure of daily blog posts, so I had to eventually relenquish that profile. Being that we only have 1 follower at this time, I would hate for that to happen. So, both Bella and I can maintain this blog with our daily happenings, thoughts and so on. Blogs get posted, I remain calm, no one has to stop following and we're all happy chappys :)
Another note, we are actually twins and not your local blog schizophrenic :) Perhaps we can russle up some photos from the family album to prove this, but at the moment you'll just have to take my word for it.
Anyway, that's enought of that...look forward to my new blogging experience.
I’m tired of making all the effort. And I’ll just mention it now, that No!!!
I am not the occasional drama queen, 'Oh woe is me' type of friend. I understand people have stuff going on and I don’t need to see my friends everyday, let alone every weekend to feel close. Just as long as I get some form of effort, communication, show me the love…whatever you want to call it.
So what type of street are you on with your friends. I have taken the liberty in naming some common streets that I have found myself on:
The ‘One Way’ Street: An unpleasant situation to be in, where one side of the friendship is making all the effort and getting nothing back in return. Even though the street is one way…there may be a U turn or an Intersection coming up to change the direction.
The ‘Roundabout’ – Now this is a deceiving traffic condition, whereby you’re making the effort and your friend appears to be reciprocating and making effort, but in actual fact you’re just going round and round in circles. All the promises are empty and all the good intentions and never quite that good. Again, it’s not too late to exit this roundabout way and come to a healthy two way street.
The 'Two way street' - This is the best friendship situation you can get. Not only are you giving the effort, you are getting some in return. Normally these two way streets are moderately smooth and well looked after, so the occurence of bumps and pot-holes are rare. But if they do show up, maintanance fixes them up in a jiffy because when you find yourself on one of these 'Two way streets' you rarely want to get off and will go out of your way to ensure complete road safety.
The 'T intersection': This condition occurred between a long term friend and myself. We had been plodding along the same way for some time, both making half hearted efforts, taking the relationship for granted and not instilling as much jazz as you would in a new relationship. We finally came to that dreaded T intersection. Straight ahead was a dead end, to the left was a no through road and to the right was a new street. We took the right. It was a new street in our friendship that we worked and concentrated on.
The 'No Through Road' - This occurs when there are tough times ahead in a friendship. Most times you will have a slight idea that the 'No through' road is just up ahead, sometimes your completely oblivious to it. I had a 'No Through' road occurence recently. I had an idea it was coming up, wasn't sure when, but then, I hit it. I took a moment to gather my thougths and direction and then turned around and headed back the long path to home.
A 'No Through road' on a 'one way street': This is said to be the worst and most detrimental condition of a friendship. Not only are you on a one way street but you know that there is a no through road up ahead. This one is bound for disaster and doom, so steer clear of this possible trap because you rarely come out of this one with a saved friendship.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Bella: I am rarely off sick...being the fantastic employee that I am. Not really...it's just that I don't get sick that often and when I do, I don't want to waste my sick days..well, being sick. Some days of course I am struck down with an illness that forces me to stay in bed and I will. However there are days when maybe I am feeling slightly off...like Mondayitis and I think, I might take a sick day today. The day is then usually spent watching the midday soaps, chat shows, cooking shows, making a lavish indulgent lunch for just myself and schlepping around in my PJ's all day. That's my idea of a sick day.
So, if you too like to indulge in an occasional 'sick day' what is your ultimate day?
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Frankie: Most times, these things are equivalent to a mere dream. Unrealistic and so far fetched that I would have more likelihood flying to the moon. Now, I know the classic saying, "Anything is possible" but really, the probability of me travelling around the whole entire world in this lifetime is close to remote.
So...If there were three things that you really wanted to achieve in your life and actually could, what would they be? Mine...
1. Travel to my fathers home town again
2. Work towards finanical security
3. Write a novel
So what is stopping me?
Bella: I like this topic and it's one I contemplate all the time which is why my list is longer than 3 points :). Each year I usually write a list of new year resolutions I want to achieve. Usually these things are not overly hard to achieve and are of a short term basis. There are so many things though that I want to achieve in my lifetime! How can anyone be expected to simply remember every dream, thought, goal, milestone and crazy idea that they want to achieve...unless you write them down. I also think it would feel extremely rewarding to look back on this list in 5, 10, 30 years time and see how much you have achieved or extremely motivating to see how little you have achieved. So with that in mind, below is the beginnings of my list and I'll be sure to add to it as more come to mind.
1. Learn Indonesian
2. Go to Slovakia and visit my Father's grave
3. Write a recipe book
4. Go to Las Vegas
5. Volunteer with a charity or organisation and make a difference
6. Run a half marathon
7. Go on a cruise
8. Learn to knit
9. Organise and throw a suprise party for someone I love
10. Go on an unforgettable girls weekend with my sisters and Mum
11. Get over my fear and learn to ride a bike...properly
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Bella: If I were a pair of shoes I would be a pair of black patent leather round toe heels. Classic and timeless yet practical and easy to maintain. The heel wouldn't be too OT...let's say 3-4 inches. Round toe makes big feet look small and ideally there would be a trim of sexy ribbon or bow detailing. This just about sums me up!
Frankie: If I were a pair of shoes I would be...a pair of Black All Star Converse high tops. A true classic but without trying too hard. A comfy, easy-going shoe that doesn't date. Versatile and fun...and always lets us remember to not take things too seriously. :)
What kind of shoe would you be?